As I draw near the end of my pregnancy, I can’t help but wonder, how will my 4 year old act once she is here?

Will he start acting up? Start exhibiting bad behavior for attention? Maybe even be mean to his new Baby Sister?

I just don’t know what to expect. My 4 year old has a 10 year old half sibling, she was only 6 when he was born, so I am trying to implement the things I did with her, with my 4 year old.

So, without further ado, I have decided to write about the different things I have done, or am in the process of doing in order to best prepare him for a new Baby Sister in the next 4-6 weeks.

Preparing your Toddler for a new Sibling

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Include Him in Decisions

No matter what I do, whether it is setting up her nursery, or picking out new clothes, I try to incorporate him in the decision.

This is as little as asking if he “likes” what I am doing or what I am picking out. He loves when I ask his opinion. This is as little as saying “do you think baby sister will like this?”

I feel it is important to let him know that I value what he thinks and that he is still important to me.


Allow Him to Put Things Away

Another thing I have done, is to let him help me put her things away. This is things such as clothes, diapers, wipes, toys, etc. He loves to help clean anyways…I know, score! But, I think we really likes to help me with her things specifically.



There have been a few things that are hand-me-downs and he gets a little possessive, but a little talk about how big he is now and that she will need it more, calms him down and then he feels as though he is giving her something that she will love.


Helping His Dad Set up Baby Essentials

The other day, he watched and helped his Daddy set up baby swing. Anything that has to do with Daddy, he loves anyways, just because he wants to be just like Dad, but being able to help with things like that make him happy.

Other things he helps with are helping with decorations, and making things for his Baby Sister. Other things older siblings can help with are, play pen set up, high chair set up, crib etc.


Spending Extra Time with Him

Lately, I have been wanting extra hugs, snuggles, kisses, you name it, I want it. He is already a lovable kid, but I just want more! Maybe I am trying to get ready for him to not be the only baby anymore, either way, I am trying to spend more time with him before baby gets here.


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I try to ask him stuff he wants to do, and we do it. No matter what it is. He loves to paint, so we will get some painting kits out and do them. If he wants a story read to him, I do it. Whatever he wants at that time, he gets.

And, of course, I make sure to let him know I love him a hundred times a day.


I Encourage Him to Be Engaged

What I mean by this is, asking if he wants to feel sister kick when she is moving. Or, I ask him what kinds of things he is going to teach her. I try to engage him in a lot of baby conversations, so he feels that he is a part of them. Most of the time, he can’t feel her, or maybe he doesn’t understand what he is looking for, but he loves to try.

I encourage him to sing to her, because he loves to sing. I let him know that the more he talks and sings, the more she will recognize his voice when she gets here. He loves that.


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The closer it is to her arrival the more nervous I get, but I know we will be okay. I know he will be okay. He is smart, lovable, and kind soul, and I have no doubt that he will be a great big brother.

I have read on ways to involve him, and I have implemented a lot. So I hope that I have done enough to prepare him for her arrival.


Do you have other ideas on how to prepare an older sibling for a new one? Please, leave your idea in the comments! I would love and appreciate that! 

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8 thoughts on “How to prepare your toddler for a new sibling

  1. These are all great tips. Preparing the little ones about the new arrival is important. Many parents will benefit from the post. Thank you.

    Posted on 10/03/2017 at 6:47 PM
  2. Best of luck in your final weeks and enjoy every minute with the new arrival. Seeing the older sibling with the younger one for the first time is such a special moment, make sure to capture it all.

    Posted on 10/05/2017 at 2:42 PM
    1. Thank you Laura, we are excited!

      Posted on 10/06/2017 at 5:20 PM
  3. I love the way you’re involving him in so many “big kid” responsibilities, decisions, etc! The best advice we got for when our 2yo became a big sister is a) Baby Sibling gave her a birthday present the Bday she had when I was pregnant with her, and then b) she and Baby Sibling exchanged presents (stuffed animals) at the hospital. To this day, that stuffed cat means the world to her, and she and her younger sister are the best of friends.

    Posted on 10/05/2017 at 5:06 PM
    1. What a good idea Flossie! Thanks!

      Posted on 10/06/2017 at 5:21 PM
  4. Thank you so much for this information and telling us about how you are preparing your family for a new babe!

    Posted on 10/05/2017 at 6:56 PM
  5. I love your tips! When my youngest was close to be born I kind of did some of the same things! If you keep including him when baby is born, it’s gonna make it a little easier! You’re gonna do great, mama!

    Posted on 10/05/2017 at 9:03 PM
    1. Thanks Isabel! I plan on having him help as much as he can. 🙂

      Posted on 10/06/2017 at 5:21 PM